I’ll Stand By You

Since this is the last blog of the year, I thought I would change things up a bit and just throw out some yearly statistics for fun.

This year, this blog had a total of 4,856 views

This blog was read in 52 countries.

The top ten countries reading the blog this year are: The United States, Canada, The United Kingdom, Denmark, Ireland, Australia, New Zealand, Ecuador, China and Japan.

The month with the most views was October with 434 visitors.

The top ten most popular blog posts and the number of times they were viewed are: 1. Just Not True (216) 2. Guest Blog #3 (153) 3. Guest Blog #4 (143) 4. I’m Not Ready to Make Nice (136) 5. Always Something There to Remind Me (125) 6. Don’t Stop Believing (112) 7. The Question (104) 8. The Rose (102) 9. How Did You Not Know? (101) 10. After The Storm (101)

And some of the most popular answers to the polls

The majority of readers only speak one language

If they had a decade of their life to do over, most would choose to do over the years between the ages of 11 and 20.

Most of you said that the 1980’s was the best decade for music.

Most readers said that they have written some kind of letter to the diocese where their abuse took place.

The eyes had it. Most people said that they felt that it was their best facial feature.

The majority of those who responded said that they have never cheated on anyone they were involved with.

It didn’t turn out to be the best choice for them, but most who answered said they returned to an abusive relationship only to end up leaving once again.

Raindrops on a rooftop won for favorite soothing sound.

Pumpkin pie was the most popular choice on the Thanksgiving table.

Half of you do not believe in reincarnation. The other half were split between maybe believing we have no choice in the matter, not wanting to return, or wishing to have different lessons to learn next time around.

Favorite Christmas memories were split between listening to holiday music and watching someone open a gift you have given them.

And finally, “O, Holy Night” was the favorite Christmas song out of the songs on the list. I could have added about 50 more songs, but I think I kept it to about ten.

I thank you all for reading my running train of thoughts and experiences some of us shared and discussed and read about this past year. As I’ve said, our stories and specifics and ages may have been different, but many of the basic reasons our abuse happened, and the patterns are shared. I also feel that gaining knowledge of the “why” and the “how” abuse happens, along with becoming more aware of our own thoughts and feelings is how healing begins. That and becoming aware of our self-talk and learning to be gentle and loving with ourselves.

That first step. That one step at a time……as we step into the new year.

Thank you so much once again, everyone for reading the blog, and for your comments, and for sending me information and news info, and for all of your support and for being a part of this community of friends.

Happy New Year to everyone!!

6 thoughts on “I’ll Stand By You

  1. Happy New Year, to you and to all my fellow support group members. I was under the weather yesterday; slept through the meeting… of course, also in a funk. 😒😊 Miss you all, couldn’t wait to read a blog, and hopefully will see you next year! 💚✨🎇⏳


  2. Figuratively, I believe that Jesus must be spinning in heaven knowing what atrocities have been connected to Christ-ianity. Christ unmistakably emphasized love, compassion and non-violence — especially towards ALL children — the opposite of what enables the most horrible acts of human cruelty to occur on this planet. Sadly, sometimes those atrocious acts are allowed to remain a buried secret. …

    Intense trauma from unchecked toxic abuse, sexual or otherwise, usually results in a helpless child’s brain improperly developing. If allowed to continue for a prolonged period, it can act as a starting point into a life in which the brain uncontrollably releases potentially damaging levels of inflammation-promoting stress hormones and chemicals, even in non-stressful daily routines. It has been described as a continuous, discomforting anticipation of ‘the other shoe dropping’ and simultaneously being scared of how badly you will deal with the upsetting event, which usually never transpires.

    The lasting emotional/psychological pain from such trauma is very formidable yet invisibly confined to inside one’s head. It is solitarily suffered, unlike an openly visible physical disability or condition, which tends to elicit sympathy/empathy from others. It can make every day a mental ordeal, unless the turmoil is treated with some form of medicating, either prescribed or illicit. … Really, why shouldn’t a psychologically and emotionally sound, as well as a physically healthy, future be every child’s foremost right, especially considering the very troubled world into which they never asked to enter?


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